I don’t have a spouse, but I think this is a common issue. People around me constantly dismiss my ADD issues in a way that they would never dismiss another disability. You would never tell someone who’s blind to just suck it up and read the menu, or tell a someone who’s paralyzed that walking a mile shouldn’t really be a big deal. I can’t afford treatment, so I have to just manage the best I can. My family sees my inability to handle a 40 hour work week (I work 30 hours) as laziness, even though I haven’t had more than a long weekend off in 17 years, and the 30 hours leaves me too exhausted to have friends. I wish people would take it seriously, but they don’t or won’t and I don’t expect to see that change anytime soon.