I too was diagnosed around your age with ADHD. It was an eye opening diagnosis that explained why I was so overwhelmed as a stay at home mom raising three children. Over the years, one by one they were all diagnosed with ADD and ADHD (which explained why we all overwhelmed each other!) When I was first diagnosed, I started Adderall 5 mg XR and it took the edge off of my anxiety in trying to take care of young children while working from home and managing my household. I noticed right away that I still got the same amount of things done in a day, but with less anxiety. I also had fewer blow ups with my frustration level.
As the years went on, it didn’t work as good and I found myself “self medicating” with caffeine again. A year ago, I went to a new doctor and was prescribed Adderall 15 mg XR. This dose works much better for me.
ADHD medications can be tricky. If it’s too much or too little it won’t work. It is also VERY important that you cut back on your caffeine intake around the time you take the meds. Caffeine is a stimulant which is the same as the Adderall. So if you are still drinking caffeine while taking the meds, you are in essence overdosing yourself. This will cause you to feel either tired/foggy or jittery. I drink iced tea in the morning, then take my Adderall about an hour later. I won’t drink caffeine again until the late afternoon when the Adderall is wearing off. I also take a short acting Adderall in the afternoon to get me through the rest of the evening.
When you take the Adderall, you should feel less anxiety/overwhelmed as you go through the day. Your thoughts should be more “organized” and you shouldn’t be as distracted to do other things that don’t need to get done in the moment. It doesn’t necessarily help me to be more “focused” but it cuts out the distractions that pull me from the task at hand. It’s easier to complete one task at a time without noticing something else that can wait until I’m done. Regardless, if you have a task that you don’t like doing, the medication will not make you suddenly want to do it! Us ADHD gals can focus on what we really want and like to do, that’s not the problem. It’s looking past all the other things in our homes that scream for our attention!
Don’t give up on the medication yet, it can greatly improve your life. It’s like wearing glasses for your brain if you can find the right dosage. Remember to cut back the caffeine (tea, coffee, chocolate, sodas)! Getting help for your ADD/ADHD is the best thing you can do for yourself and your family.