Adderal XR and Vyvanse are good options to consider. Changing medications or dosage levels can be a really tough transition time. My husband has an ADHD diagnosis as well and it is tough being a non ADHD partner. It is now a rule in our house that my husband will notify me on the day he is changing prescriptions or increasing his medication dosage. These medicines are powerful and often times there are behavioral side affects when there is a change in the daily medication. When I am notified on the day of a change I am able to mentally prepare and we plan an easy day at home to help make the transition easier.
Big hugs to you. Hang in there, breathe and do something nice for yourself.