But see, diabetics CAN avoid candies and cakes. And people with ADHD CAN avoid situations and jobs, etc. that are too hard for our ADHD minds to deal with. We accommodate ourselves by choosing jobs that suit us, avoiding those that don’t work, and maybe taking on less than we’d really like to do to make sure that what we do handle is actually done. And school is an environment that is NOT well suited to the ADHD brain, unfortunately. So if we can make it a little easier for our kiddos to navigate those difficult years that is not coddling. That is trying to even the playing field. Fidgets and accommodations are to the ADHD child what having the whole family eat less sugar would be to the diabetic child. It makes the journey a bit easier.