I’m right there with the OP. I can do anything for others but nothing to do for myself. The only thing that helped was joining classes that were a commitment and short term with a fixed time so I saw them as a duty – as though I would let others down if I couldn’t attend. But that doesn’t really cut it for changing that fundamental ability to prioritise yourself that mist people seem to do.
I think this trait maybe comes under the “seeing how others can do things better but failing to act on it” so – when you see a useless filing system and know how to fix it but can’t actually get around to doing it?
No idea of solutions for this issue but I guess that’s what we’re here for!