Women are commonly misdiagnosed with depression for years. You can certainly have ADHD without hyperactivity. The official term now is ADHD Inattentive Type, but it is most well known under it’s old diagnostic label, ADD.
Here’s a great online self-test for women and girls (ADHD often presents differently in females). You can take this self-test and see if ADHD is likely the right direction to go in. You can even print out your results and take them to your psychiatrist.
Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism