Thank you Siggy. Yes you are totally correct! I have done so much for my husband now its all turned on me. I feel used and abused. He has excuses for everything. He life consist of sitting on couch doing nothing. Now. I am older and need help because of health issues, I still get nothing. He sits in his own cave and ignores. He always refused couneling of any kind. I am frustrated. Tired of excuses!