Try applying a behavior modification strategy, to teach them that they should ask first for everything (better everything than nothing, right?). Teaching them to ask about everything removes the consideration and decision-making process on every item. And, when it’s something they don’t need to ask for, you can tell them: “Thanks so much for coming to me and asking first. I really appreciate that. In the future, you have my permission to always __________ without needing to ask me first.”
Here’s how we implemented a behavior modification approach to stop my son from hitting back in elementary school. Recognize that the key is consistency, frequency, and lots of time.
And some communications strategies for parenting teens with ADHD:
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