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Penny Williams

Try applying a behavior modification strategy, to teach them that they should ask first for everything (better everything than nothing, right?). Teaching them to ask about everything removes the consideration and decision-making process on every item. And, when it’s something they don’t need to ask for, you can tell them: “Thanks so much for coming to me and asking first. I really appreciate that. In the future, you have my permission to always __________ without needing to ask me first.”

Here’s how we implemented a behavior modification approach to stop my son from hitting back in elementary school. Recognize that the key is consistency, frequency, and lots of time.

“How I Helped My Son Stop Hitting Classmates”

And some communications strategies for parenting teens with ADHD:

Like the Teen You Love: ADHD-Friendly Communication Tips

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