I read the articles you cited above. I have read many, many books and articles. My husband and I have worked with a marriage counselor and with an ADD coach. You say you and your husband divide tasks based on your strengths. My husband and I do the same. I do mine. We have a daily meeting to review to do lists and plans for the next day. Now we added a review of longer term plans. These meetings help, but the majority of my husband’s commitments still are not kept. Would you tell me from your personal experience how it happens that your husband completes his share of commitments?