You shouldn’t fight your emotions, but rather validate your feelings and work through them. Here’s a piece I wrote about this process:
Every parent “loses it” sometimes! The best thing you can do for yourself (and your son) is detach from his behavior emotionally. It’s not personal, and most of the time it’s not likely even intentional. Your energy is so much better spent on getting to know his strengths and weaknesses well and then addressing triggers.
If you haven’t, read Ross Greene’s book, “The Explosive CHild.”You will better understand the behavior after reading it, and, when you better understand the behavior, you don’t take it personally, or as disrespect, but you address it in a meaningful way.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism