Start by taking a deep breath and realizing that you can’t change everything all at once. Start with what’s most important, get that under control, and then move on to the next thing.
Hire help whenever you can. Someone to clean your house once every week or two? An accountant to handle your finances? If you can get a couple stressors off your plate, you will be better able to manage what you have to.
Have you tried a finance app/online software like Mint? It’s free and amazing. I use it myself. You can connect all your bank, credit cards, and loan accounts and see everything in real time. You can even pay most of your bills from it.
Here’s some expert advice for creating structure and routine to tone down the chaos:
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