This reply was originally posted by user cicero67 in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
No disrespect, but your husband needs therapy just as badly as your son does. Have you discussed this with him? Men who can’t relate to their kids unless they are perfect are, IMO, revealing their own deep insecurities. See if your husband would be willing to go with you for couples therapy. Maybe if he knows how much you need him in this effort, he’ll be less opposed.
And one more thing. If your son’s therapist is helping him only “a bit” and she is “always booked,” you need to find a new therapist. Titrating ADHD meds is tricky. Your son needs regular appointments so the therapist can evaluate him closely. Find a new therapist who is good with ADHD, easy to see, and willing to help you. Good luck!