This reply was originally posted by user ADHDmomma in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
I think setting realistic expectations of your husband is where you must start. You say, “I am willing to give it another year to see permanent change and growth in his behavior and character.”
There is no cure for ADHD. Permanent change isn’t possible. Effective treatment and working toward improvement is possible, and it sounds like your husband has taken that step.
ADHD is not a character flaw, it is a physiological difference in the brain—a disability. https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1017.html
While he’s working on therapy and medication for treatment and improvement, continue your own therapy and learn all you can about ADHD:
ADDconnect Moderator, Author on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen boy with ADHD, LDs, and autism