This reply was originally posted by user John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
Many folks feel betrayed by this discovery, especially for the reason Mr. focus gives of having to fit in when you can’t. Being angry makes perfect sense!
Learning about it, learning about it a lot, can be quite helpful.
It is also good to work with someone who knows about ADHD and, above all, knows that blame has to pried off the doorsill and out the door.
This person could be an ADHD coach or some other kind of advisor/counsellor. You will know that such a person is right for you because you will feel your shoulders unknot and you will feel you are in a welcoming place.