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Hope @ ADDitude
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This reply was originally posted by user ADHDmomma in ADDitude’s now-retired community.

The key is to create balance. You take on the tasks he isn’t good at, and he is responsible for his areas of strength (for example, I handle all the finances in our family—my husband doesn’t even have a debit card for our checking account. He runs kids back and forth to activities, because he doesn’t mind doing that).

Systems, processes, and routines for the family can help a great deal. As well as using technology for things like reminders, and scheduling.

Here’s more on when the parent has ADHD:
https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/609.html.

And on relationships with ADHD:
https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/5765.html
https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/7504.html

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen boy with ADHD, LDs, and autism