This reply was originally posted by user Angie_H in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
The label is irrelevant. It’s the behaviors that matter. I’ve had many struggles with my husband. He recently agreed to see an ADHD coach but won’t commit to a date for an appointment. Meanwhile, I continue to read, examine my part in our interactions, and try to figure out how I can be more effective in influencing my husband. Some things help, some don’t. I keep trying to have a marriage which is good for both of us. All the best to you in this journey.