This reply was originally posted by user ADHDmomma in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
It sounds like he is in a downward spiral and you are getting sucked in and taken on the frightening ride. Nothing will change unless he acknowledges his ADHD and gets treatment—not drugs and alcohol but real treatment.
I don’t usually comment on these discussions with the opinion that the non-ADHD partner should leave, but I really feel that way in your case. Go back and read what you posted. You are 110% miserable. And he doesn’t see that, or see how much he contributes to that. Why do you want to continue to live like that?
ADDconnect Moderator, Author on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen boy with ADHD, LDs, and autism