This reply was originally posted by ADHDmomma in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
Sounds like a heart-to-heart about what each of your roles and responsibilities needs to be in order for you to be willing to have kids is in order.
An ADHD Coach could help a great deal — helping him craft tailored routines, strategies, etc to be more productive and take on the responsibilities he needs to with success. https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/11035.html
And a little on what to do when it feels like your spouse is more like your child: https://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/5765.html
ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism