This reply was originally posted by user Doty in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
I am saying this with all the love I can…. You aren’t even officially a couple, pay attention to how you feel. How does it feel? Do you feel cared for? Supported? Part of a team? Once you add marriage, children, careers, a mortgage, car payments, bills, sick kids, family deaths…..those feelings become so much worse because in a marriage one is supposed to be part of a team. Yet, the Non-ADD spouse truly faces life alone. If I could do it all again, I would run for my life in the other direction. Best of luck to you.