This reply was originally posted by user ADHDmomma in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
It sounds to me like he’s still the same person, but moving in together allows you to see him at all times and in all moods — much more than when you’re dating. So, these behaviors have likely been there all along, you just hadn’t been around them.
There are many strategies to have a healthy relationship with ADHD in the mix. The fact that he’s getting treatment is huge, as many adults do not, and that complicates things greatly.
I agree that you should tell him how you’re feeling, but be sure it’s at a time when everyone is calm and happy, not right after an argument or emotional outburst.
Those with ADHD are especially susceptible to perceived criticism so be aware of that as well.
Here’s more on relationships with an ADHD partner:
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