This reply was originally posted by user Endan20010 in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
You are not alone. I tried to change myself for about thirty years. No one caught my add. I had a doctor very close to me personally who I found out wasn’t concerned about me diagnose everyone’s maladies except mine. I’ve know her for almost 20 years and all I think about is “what if?” I have not come to terms with it, but I am close to 40 and I want to enjoy the years I have left. It may not be perfect, but it is all I have and that is good enough. I understand I was not put on this earth to be happy. It is sobering, but it allows me to enjoy things. Hang in there. It will get better.