Reply To: Frustrating Mornings

Allison Russo

This reply was originally posted by user Mom1978 in ADDitude’s now-retired community.

Hi, I have 2 boys with ADHD 6 and 10. One thing you need to remember is that your son is only 6, so parental assistance and understanding is still needed. Having ADHD means he is going to be distracted (ugh) and may not follow through.But you also need to remember his executive function skills, the ability to stay on task, organize and complete a multi step tasks can be delayed 2 or more years. Meaning if he is 6 he might act more like a 4 year old when trying to do multi step tasks like getting dressed in the morning. This means you have to give him his tasks in small chunks. Time to get dressed. OK. Time to eat etc. As hard as it is you need to set the routine, and be consistent about it even on weekends, and holidays (a pain yes)

You might want to make it a game, set the kitchen timer for a set time then say who can get ready first me or you. Set a prize TV time, toy time, stickers something he gets if he does it.

We have the rule in our house that the TV or other entertainment activities do not get turned on used until they are ready for school. dressed (clothes picked out the night before) dressed, something to eat or drink, shoes on, teeth and hair brushed. We get them up 45 min to an 1 hour before they have to go to school. The reward is if they complete the whole routine they get some TV time (PBS/ Disney) but if they don’t no TV time before they leave for school.

But remember he is 6. Medication is not the end all be all. It is like a crutch or cane. It is there to help not to take over. Good luck.