This reply was originally posted by user John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
No worries, Marianne. The posts are slow to appear and it’s common to see repeats. I’ve done this many times. No one minds this so you need not be concerned.
I see that by the hearing aid issue you already realize that he is responsible for communicating to you and you are drawing the line. Good for you.
I am impressed that he relies on you so much. Perhaps it’s not control but need. He values you more than you realize and more than he may care to admit. I sense that you an oasis of calm for him. Think of him as a nervous young man, a little uncertain, a bit of a bull in a china shop. You need to be patient.
And you are the opposite of a bother. Post as often as you like. Authenticity is more of a blessing than anything else.