This reply was originally posted by user John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach in ADDitude’s now-retired community.
This is a perfect place to find kindred spirits. Welcome aboard.
In this new relationship you may find he will never totally understand. You will need to forgive him for this and focus attention on the good things about him.
For you it is important to take care of yourself. If you need meds just take them without a lot of explanation. I gather you have already done that so there’s no point in more explaining.
He needs to do some things on his own. You need to do some things on your own. The things you enjoy doing together should be confined to things you enjoy or must do.
And in these sorts of situations a smile can be more effective than words.