I think it’s really important to tell him exactly what you wrote here. The sincerity should carry some weight. Couples counseling could be helpful too. I know you’re not married, but Melissa Orlov’s books on ADHD and marriage are full strategies for couples.
In the end, if he doesn’t accept who you are, the relationship will never work. It’s not that you’ve done anything wrong or are broken or anything like that, it’s simply that you don’t fit together.
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