Your son’s behavior is communication. It’s a symptom of an underlying struggle. He doesn’t want to be that kid, he wants to do well. So why is he unable to? Here are some ideas that might fit:
– poor frustration tolerance
– poor emotional communication and regulation
– concrete thinking that causes one to only see one way something can go
– impulsivity and not being able to think about consequences before acting
If he really loves hockey and gets confidence from it, it’s important to work with him on these underlying struggles to help him be successful at it and continue participating.
Remember too, his developmental age in a lot of ways is more like 8 or 9. Set expectations accordingly.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism