Hot tip in the parenting department for ASD parents. Use decibel reducing earplugs, like the ones people use for concerts or riding motorcycles. You can still hear your baby when they need you, but it takes the sensory edge off.
Also, I’m not ASD and I’m very sensitive to body language and tone of voice. It didn’t matter. I still couldn’t tell what my baby wanted 90% of the time. You just learn to run down the list and check everything. Mr husband is ASD, and he’s a great dad, if not always a sensitive one 😊.