I joined this forum about 10 minutes ago! I’m sorry to hear about your diagnostic experience. I am also waiting to hear further about diagnosis of autism / ADHD / both / neither and I’m a bit apprehensive about getting a “no” verdict. From the questionnaires I’ve filled in so far I could well meet the criteria for both, which could make it more difficult to diagnose either. Maybe this has happened in other people’s cases too.
But I’m working on self-acceptance and trying to use strategies for people with ADHD and autistic people 🙂 My autistic husband had to have a second opinion to get his diagnosis. He was an adult but I wonder if his mum paid for the second opinion. I might have discussed this previously with my husband but I can’t remember!