Hello! I am in the same boat–I totally know what you mean about he just Can’t do some things that you think would be the most logical things to do. My spouse is exactly the same way. I’m seeking advice on how to cope myself, so I don’t have any magical advice, I just wish that there were more ways for people like our partners to really show their stuff and shine. My spouse always does better if I can find a way to tell him how wonderful he is and how much I love him just the way he is—confidence boosting helps or finding something he can do that he’s really good at that can have practical purpose can help him feel better But these are moment to moment things that do not really address these larger issues. I’m following this thread to see if folks offer up other thoughts, but I am with you.