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Katy Perkins

As with my personal struggle, you can only help someone who wants to be supported & is willing to receive that help from you. It can be challenging to watch someone you care about keep making the same mistakes, or experience negative consequences due to their ADHD. (
If they are truly ready to adopt some systems & strategies for managing their symptoms, the place to start is to learn at least the basics about ADHD. There are excellent books & several podcasts devoted to adults with ADHD. Both you & your loved one could read and listen to them & talk about what you learned.
The next step is to have a heart to heart about when & where they would like your help. Be aware of the potential for creating co-dependent dynamics where you are taking responsibility for managing his ADHD.
The ideal outcome is that you feel good about your level of involvement & your ADHD friend feels empowered.