His social and emotional health is just as important as academic (I’d actually argue more so). And he’s at an age where you need his buy-in for any plan to succeed. A conversation outlining the pros and cons from his perspective and parents’ perspective is a good place to start. If he feels strongly one way or the other, I’d lean there. In my opinion, doing mediocre academically (even with gifted IQ) but feeling confident and really good about himself is far superior to doing really well academically and feeling really lonely and/or down about himself.
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