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Sorry to hear about your partners dilemma. Clearly he needs to stop the Acid asap but the tricky part here with anyone that self medicates, is that if it works at some level , why stop ? It’s better than facing anxiety alone. You basically need to get him down the Dr’s and onto other medication for anxiety/sleep etc…
But how do you get him down there ? Can you influence others in the house ? Don’t try the “weed is bad for you” route, because it’s actually very effective at dealing with anxiety and other aspects of ADHD hence why it’s so popular within the community, so he won’t believe you.
Acid on the other hand is very dangerous and can do permanent damage, but if he’s not seen that damage as yet… You just need to let him know there’s extra help from medication for anxiety/sleep etc… Could you stage an intervention with the help of others in the household ? Or if he has to go to the Dr for other reasons, come with him and mention it to the Dr ? They are nonjudgmental about weed, as they know a very high percentage of people with ADHD self medicate with it. In fairness weed has less side effects to some of the prescription drugs, so he may need to trial a few, so stopping weed only needs mentioning once he’s got a better solution. It’s all confidential and they probably won’t encourage him off straight away. If he comes off without an alterative, his anxiety may get worse, so that won’t convince him. Also even when he’s off and medicated, he still has ADHD to deal with, so it’s not a magical solution. But that’s a good first move, get him down the Dr, get him the right prescription medication then get him off the Acid, and finally the weed. Folk with ADHD respond well to reward, so could rewards be attached to going to the Dr ? Best of luck, also weed isn’t physically addictive so it’s not physically hard to stop, it’s the mental dependency that’s tough.