Reply To: Being with an ADD partner and not being intimate anymore

Home Welcome to the ADDitude Forums How to Use the ADDitude Forums Being with an ADD partner and not being intimate anymore Reply To: Being with an ADD partner and not being intimate anymore

#189774
Kerplunk
Participant

I’m sorry you’re experiencing issues. But folk with ADHD tend to lie less than the norm for several reasons. We’re very impulsive so we often overshare and struggle to keep secrets, so even if we do try and lie we’re not good at it. If he is still cheating whilst living with you, it wouldn’t be difficult for you to find out. Not trying to make excuses, but now you’re living together and a physical relationships is possible, maybe he sees it as a very different situation ? Also he did give you his phone – which is very trusting.

The sex thing may not be to do with ADHD unless his hyper-focus is on something (rather someone) else. There are many reasons for a lull in sex, if someone becomes stressed or depressed or various medications can all effect libido. Maybe try spicing things up, maybe just tell him how you feel ? Certainly research the side effects of any medication. It might be prudent to put marriage on hold until you’ve resolve this, in essence you need to talk it out with him. If that fails maybe go to couples guidance as a way of getting the conversation going. Don’t forget you did mention many positive things about your relationship. But try not to pin it all on ADHD/ADD or any one thing, it will be down to a mix, a little bit you and a little be him (You’ve just had a male perspective) Best of luck.