I too am an ADHD wife. My husband can’t keep a job. I’ve done similar in that I control all of our bills and all of the finances. We don’t even have a joint bank account anymore. I was tired of the let down and I just needed to do it myself.
He’s very intelligent, but has the attention span of a knat. Today he lasted one day at his job he just got hired for.
It’s frustrating and disheartening. I was feeling a little bummed today and found this feed and so glad I did.