This pandemic is brutal, and even more so for most kids. As adults, we’ve seen really bad times and experienced that they get better eventually. Our kids don’t have that frame of reference. It feels like the world is crumbling and they don’t have the experience that it will get better. All they know is it’s worse than it’s ever been, because that is true for them.
And remote learning is a challenge for all students. It’s different and unchartered for most. It’s a huge adjustment period. Add that to feeling anxious and sad about the state of the world… double whammy.
And, kids are used to being around others at least 5 days a week. The ability to connect with others in our usual ways have been stripped away. Strike 3.
Connection is one of the most important aspects of good mental health. Your son’s depression makes perfect sense. But that doesn’t make it easier for him or his family to deal with. Your son’s world has been completely thrown off its axis and it will take time to recover and heal. Seeing a therapist is great. If there are any options for safe connection, offer those opportunities.
Above all, remember that he’s having a really hard time and it’s showing up at home, with you, when he just can’t hold it in any longer. Just keep reminding him that you’re there for him and you want to help, but he needs to let you know what he needs from you (and wants, he is a teen).
Hang in there!
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism