I know that for me, the thing that works the best to calm me down in the evenings is exercise. I used to go to a gym regularly after work, and no matter how tired I was from work, at the end of my gym routine, I felt calm, happy, and too tired to get upset about anything! I intend to start this up again, but I am still a little wobbly from a long period of drinking too much, going to rehab, relapsing, getting sober again. As life is, I walk my dog every day for a slightly longer period of time, each day. Soon, I will buck up and go back to the gym. Weights and aerobic exercise make me feel I can accomplish most anything.