I do not have a great answer for you other than I can sympathize. I am coming to the realization that my daughter is addicted to her phone in a way that is interfering with her ability to get anything else accomplished. In the past we always made them dock their phones with us near bedtime. Since Covid we let that slip and have not Reinstated. I think our next step is to put an ap on her phone that blocks use during parts of the day and then at night. I think the smart phones are a great tool for us all to have, but finding that balance is where we have to help our kids. She is going to put up a fight, but what else is new.