His behavior isn’t age appropriate sometimes because ADHD is a developmental disorder. He’s behind in some areas, and frustration tolerance and emotional regulation and communication are very likely. Outbursts signal that your child is HAVING a hard time, not GIVING you a hard time.
Medication isn’t a “fix” — it’s one tool in a large toolbox. Medication may help with this and a whole like more, but remember that you have to work on your parenting approach and your child’s lagging skills as well to see real improvement.
We had a great experience with medication for my son for about 8 years. After puberty, medication became too focusing for him and he couldn’t tolerate it well anymore. It was a complete game-changer for him when it worked though.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism