October 27, 2020 at 8:25 am #186804
- Mmmmm speaking as that guy …. mmmm … for most guys, no. For me, if I concentrate on it, I can force B+ grade hyper focus. But it’s exhausting. The pandemic has weirdly helped me in this area: I see her twice a month and many of those times I have been able to lock-in and hyper focus. (I don’t think that’s common) But I totally forgot to get stuff for her birthday. Here’s my trick: I usually try to, well, find new intimate things to experiment with. That becomes new enough that I lock on that. Now, I’m lucky in having a girlfriend who
toleratesenjoys me deciding I want to spend the next five, seven, hours in bed. But that’s my trick: time apart to recharge and to maintain a sense of novelty; buying my girlfriend a million sex toys.
- Oh and: Ditch that guy. I’ve got ADHD. I’m a guy. Ditch him.