First I just started guanfacine for RSD and I’m 64 and it has been a total game changer for my lifelong RSD.
I have five adult children and all have SO. I found myself obsessing about being forgotten on various holidays. I came up with this solution. I do gifts for the grandkids on holidays. For the rest of them including hubby I told everyone I no longer expect gifts on a certain day or will be giving them on a certain day. I am now giving gifts when I am inspired to do so. I have received gifts from the thoughtful ones some on holidays some spontaneous others not so much but they never did. The upside is I manage my expectations and it helps me to not keep score which always triggers my RSD.