Hello from the East Valley!
If I’m being totally honest, I’m still pursuing a diagnosis and came to this forum hoping for some guidance. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder (at Banner in Mesa) just over a year ago, after a long time of feeling something in my brain was constantly setting me apart, but after much time on this site and others, bipolar doesn’t seem to be the only thing happening up there.
Your situation reminds me of several of the men in my life I’ve cared deeply about; our society does a poor job of extinguishing biases. Now that you have a diagnosis, actually facing it and dealing with the fallout are steps it’ll be your responsibility to take in order to move into a phase where you can work through the disorder instead of just feeling overwhelmed by it. Easier said than done of course, but the worst step you could take would be to ignore it. It sounds like you’re on your way to gaining a more workable understanding, but I hope this helps and feel free to reach back out!
Also, in case you enjoy books, I’d be remiss not to recommend:
David and Goliath – Malcolm Gladwell
The Obstacle Is The Way – Ryan Holiday