With comorbid conditions like that, it’s good that he’s working with a psychiatrist. It makes treatment much more complex. I can take a few months to a year or more to find the right medication and dosage, or combination of medications. It’s all trial and error unfortunately.
You need to prioritize your own mental and emotional health as well. You’re experiencing a lot of stress and you deserve a reprieve.
Here are a couple of insightful articles for spouses of ADHD:
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