Just speaking for my own experience as a life long ADHD woman. I have been married for 15 years and had many long relationships with only men – that being said, I could care less what I look like – rarely take a brush to my hair – dont wear makeup and generally seem “asexual” probably alot as I have never put much stock into anything “sexual in nature”. I dont mind having sex – like it here and there – but seriously dont ever think about it hardly. I probably would be just fine without it – but it makes my husband feel loved and appreciated and thats reason enough for me to engage. Maybe this is what your referring too?