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Many people go through the ADHD-obsession period with a new diagnosis, especially parents. All we want is to make all the pain and struggle go away for our kids. It hurts to see them hurting.
It took me a couple years of this to realize that, in trying to help, I was actually making things worse and tearing apart my family.
ADHD acceptance has to happen. “I have ADHD. My kids has ADHD. But we can figure out how to live well with it.” As long as you fight and bristle against ADHD, trying to change ADHD, you will just spin your wheels in the muck of it all.
Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism