@GBH447 — I NEVER said anything to suggest that the poster doesn’t have a right to her feelings. You’re seeing things that aren’t remotely part of what I posted. As a neurotypical with a diagnosed teen and an undiagnosed spouse, I’ve found the most helpful first step is to understand what is going on and understand the ADHD brain. Then, you can recognize that the individual isn’t always going to fit into the neurotypical box, and that that’s totally okay.
Of course it’s hard. But part of how hard it is is in the fighting against who the individual with ADHD truly is. We can’t make them neurotyical, no matter hoe hard we try — all that does is cause pain and suffering.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism