My parents are ‘kinda’ the same way (just graduated high school): my dad doesn’t feel like I can do anything and silently judges certain things I do, then uses said things as a way to not let me do things. (But I feel like he is just trying to help and is improving)
While my mom says I’m using it as a crutch …which isn’t true and I’ve tried to explain with no prevail… and gets mad when I do something she doesn’t like; for example: swinging my arms up and down, emotional outburst, forgetting stuff, etc.
So I have forced myself to a “conform and shut up” type of approach.
Which doesn’t work and has only caused myself and my self-esteem to suffer, which solves nothing!!
So try a different approach and send you love and support no matter what. Hope things go well and would love an update on how things go.