Thank you all for your insight. I was wrong to only ask for neurotypical responses. It is a year later and we are verging on divorce. Neither of us has changed and we can hardly tolerate each other. I am debating whether or not to show him your responses. The central theme appears to be getting therapy. He does take meds but refuses therapy and refuses to stop drinking. His alcohol intake is the largest issue right. Let’s just say it is affecting everything. And I mean everything. I am not a happy wife at all.