Sonia is exactly right… you ultimately have to work on what is triggering her. It could be anxiety from the pandemic. Just about everyone is feeling that in one way or another.
If she’s resisting your help, I’d let he know that you hear her and you want to honor what she needs. You’ll step back, but are there for her when she asks for your assistance or companionship. And let her know you do need to hear from her once a day, even if just a text, so you know she’s ok.
Try posting this in the adult discussion too — you will get some great ideas from others like her.
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