Most of that stuff didn’t work for my son either. What did work was a goal chart. We had only one or two goals at a time. He earned one to three stars a day for how well he met the goal throughout the day. When he had a certain number of stars, he got a reward (for us around ages 8-10 it was a lego set).
For routine, keep it simple and post it for your daughter. Keep a weekly calendar wall chart so she can see what to expect and use timers and reminder notifications to keep you on task. There are even Routine apps you can use.
And, lastly, give yourself some grace. Everyone who is trying to work from home full time and school their child at home full time is struggling. There aren’t enough hours in the day. And we’re all anxious to some degree. It’s just plain hard.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism