Didn’t the original person who posted ask for responses from “Nons” only?
Unless your husband accepts that his ADHD has affected your marriage, and owns his behavior and responsibilities, nothing will change. Medication might help but it will not be a “cure”. Cognitive behavioral therapy helped my fiance. In fact, it helped him more than any medication. So much so that he is not medicated.
I find that many books and websites point to what the non-spouse can do and the changes they can make. That is all well and good but unless the ADHD spouse owns their behavior and is willing to make changes nothing will change. The non-spouse will continue to do everything and overcompensate, leading to burnout.
- This reply was modified 7 months ago by AdeleS546.